How To Be More Confident - The Spacing Exercise

Summary by Krater

This video explores two common mentalities that stem from low self-esteem and confidence: feeling unworthy of taking up space in public and having high agreeableness. It explains how these mindsets affect identity and offers exercises—such as deliberately taking up more physical space—to help overcome them and build self-worth over time.

From the video

Answers: How can I build self-esteem and confidence when I struggle with taking up space and agreeableness?

• self-esteem and confidence
• taking up space in public
• agreeableness personality trait
• changing identity through repetition
• overcoming fear of disrespecting others

What it concludes

• People with low self-esteem often believe they are unworthy of taking up space and feel that doing so is disrespectful to others.
• Agreeableness is a personality trait combining the value of getting along with others and the willingness to be critical of them.
• Men who score high on agreeableness make on average $10,000 less than men who score low.
• Men who score high on agreeableness are seen as the worst candidates for leadership roles.
• Agreeable people often don't stand up for themselves out of fear of offending others.
• Identity can be changed over time through repetition by consciously changing actions, such as taking up more space in public.